Ok, so 2012 is here with a vengeance so OUT WITH THE OLD AND IN WITH THE NEW, AND I MEAN THE NEW YOU!!
The energy has really changed.
I swear I feel it and I’m pretty excited!
So what profound changes are you making? Is it a new job, a new weight, a new you?
I’m hoping all of the above. I’m a firm believer and lover of change. Change represents to me, the space to be better, try new things, do it different, be prosperous, get out of the slump, learn and grow as a human being.
It isn’t something to be afraid of; it’s something to truly EMBRACE!
Recently I had the pleasure of working with a woman (lets call her Nicole) who ran a department at a huge company.
Let me start by telling you that this woman not only is an extremely hard worker but has people skills and sales skills like I’ve never seen before. Selling ice to Eskimos is an understatement and problem solving with grace is her middle name. Any company would be lucky to have her!
So what was the problem?
She felt a bit overlooked, undervalued and unappreciated
When I went to her work place to get an idea of what she was talking about I found it to be true.
The power was missing, but it wasn’t missing from those around her. No, they were just reacting to her own interpretation of herself and something had to change.
I saw the problem as very simple. I noticed that she dressed somewhat casual for her position. She didn’t take herself seriously according to her look.
The truth is she really needed to believe from the inside, that she was worthy.
Well, sometimes you need a little help and you have to fake it til you make it, so that’s where I stepped in.
As a fashion stylist I know that first impressions are the most important and it doesn’t stop with what comes out of your mouth or how much make up you have on, it includes what you’re wearing and how you’re wearing it.
As the saying goes…When you look good you feel good. And there’s a lot of truth to that.
You can argue all you want but deep inside you know that the cold hard facts are this:
When you put on that sexy red dress and stilettos, do your hair and make up, throw on that perfect scent and walk out that door with you comes a sense of self confidence and sexiness. You begin to act the part. You feel sassy and you act sassy!
If you go out with your hair in a pony tail, no make up, bland khaki shorts and an old t/s you feel just like that, Old and dull. You become introverted because you don’t really feel good about yourself. It’s a pretty subtle thing and can go unnoticed for years, that is til Lisa Styles come along and slap some sense into you!!
So that’s what I did.
Nicole dressed in a manner that said I’m not serious about my job.She wore clothes that were inappropriate for someone running a department and because she dressed as such those around her saw the same. She mismatched pieces, some of which were about 100 years old, handed down and so unlike her personality. It made her feel insecure and off a bit. She hadn’t a clue how to begin to dress the part.
My task began with a straight and to the point consultation, having her narrow down what she’s comfortable wearing and my new suggestions for her. I explained the different looks and what they say about a person. A woman wearing a pant suit means business, is tough, strong and confident and unafraid. Wear the same idea with a skirt and now you are reminding everyone that you’re a woman. Each piece of clothing you wear says something to everyone you pass, whether you believe it or not.
Closet restructuring: I went through her closet, getting rid of ALL things unnecessary and unwearable. This part is pretty painful, but extremely necessary. You know those items that really haven’t been touched in years. That dress you wore on a date with your husband 5 years ago. The top that’s too sexy for your age or looks like something your daughter should be wearing. That sort of stuff.
Shop and Experiment.
I took her out for 3 hours, to try on different styles and sizes to really see who she was.
Each piece you wear either matches your personality or not. It takes a lot of honestly and awareness to know what these things are.
We bought about 8 key pieces and several key accessories to start off.
We went back to her place and put 2 weeks worth of outfits together.
The update was minimal yet impactful. The end result was Chanel meets J Crew. She was fresh, trendy, sophisticated, professional and styled. She had her own look and she felt empowered. Now I had to see if that feeling would overflow and create something new at work.
Testing the waters
I asked her to call me each day with comments and reactions as well as how she felt easing into her new look. The first day was a bit scary for her since she was partly out of her comfort zone. I had made a few outfits that eased her slowly inter her new look to give her time to adjust but the reactions were so positive that she went full steam ahead wearing her black polka dot & lace textured stockings, her layers of accessories, the whole shebang!!. The compliments kept coming and the head of the company saw her several times a week, each time having another positive remark about how she looked, things like “wow, I love that look, wear more of that!” it was truly amazing what happened. Her co workers had a different attitude toward her and most importantly,she began to respect herself. I should tell you that after 3 months she got a promotion and she continues to have me update her wardrobe. She more confident then ever in her position and knows her worth within the company. Not to say that clothing equals self confidence, but it certainly jump starts the process and when you fake it you end up making it!!!
That small wardrobe change changed her and everyone around her.
For her, 2012 is a new Nicole!!
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