Category Archives: Michelle and Debbie – Opinionated MAMAs

About O-MAMA’s Democratic Voice: Michelle Tingler
Michelle grew up in Rochester Hills, MI, raised by a single father. A graduate of the University of Michigan and former VP, Management Supervisor at Dailey & Associates Advertising in Los Angeles, CA, she left her advertising career when her first child was born in 1999. However, her professional skills overlapped into her role as a mother – every birthday party was approached like an integrated marketing campaign; every holiday assigned an innovative theme with broad family appeal.

Happily married for 13 years, Michelle has been a busy, engaged, stay-at-home mom of three kids, a dog, and a tortoise for nine of them. Michelle became engaged in political issues during the 2008 Presidential campaign and, again, merged her learned skills in both advertising and motherhood with her new passion – politics. The idea for O-MAMA was born. Michelle now spends her days talking with moms all across America, as well as the media, empowering moms to be a voice in the country’s most important conversations.

About O-MAMA’s Republican Voice: Debbie Devine
Nothing is ordinary about this Southern California Republican. She grew up in Corona del Mar, CA, graduated from the University of Southern California, and was raised by parents who are still married after 45 years. Typical. But Debbie studied abroad, became fluent in Spanish, and spent her career years working for Telemundo, CNN en Español, and CNN International, where she helped launch television programs and networks in Spain, Mexico, and Turkey. Surprise!
Finally, motherhood took precedence and Deb traded in her international globe-trotting career for a second one teaching Spanish. She owns and operates a student travel business that takes middle school and high school students to Latin America to help them become global citizens. Her goal is to get kids :out of the bubble” of the United States, use their language skills and perform community service projects.
Debbie is a divorced mother of two great kids and a dog. Her enthusiasm for motherhood, teaching, travel, and news is infectious. O-MAMA integrates all of her experiences and interests and she and Michelle enjoy sharing their passion with America’s moms on the site as well as spreading the message and mission of O-MAMA to a national audience.

To see Michelle and Debbie in action, click here to view their latest video:
http://www.o-mama.com/videos

Lucky Charm

Top of the morning to you, O’mamas!

Let St. Patrick’s Day inspire you to invoke the leprechaun spirit and play a little hooky. A recharged and rejuvinated MAMA provides balance.  Plus, it’ll give you some time to come up with all sorts of fun ideas of where to put the green food coloring!  (-:  In Chicago, they turn the river green.  In D.C., they turn the fountain in front of the White House green.  In our house, we turn the toilet water green!?! What do you do for fun in your house on St. Patrick’s Day?

We know your kids are your lucky charms, but don’t forget to take a MOMent to kick back and relax. You deserve it!

Change begins at home.™

-Michelle & Deb

“Balancing It All”

Moms know how hard it is to find the balance in our lives and keep it. We’ve got love and marriage, kids and family, business and pleasure, budgets and binkies…MAMAs balance it all.  We need advice on how to remain steady because motherhood is a constant balancing act and we try so hard not to drop the ball.

Opinionated MAMA is proud to announce that we are bringing our opinions on news and events from a mom’s perspective to The Balancing Act blog.  Tuesdays are #balancedtuesdays.  Check in today and let us know how you balance it all, MAMAs!?

Change begins at home.™

-Michelle & Deb

Balancing It All

MAMAs know how hard it is to find the balance in our lives and keep it. We’ve got love and marriage, kids and family, business and pleasure, budgets and binkies…MAMAs balance it all, so tune in today to The Balancing Act on Lifetime Television – sometimes we need some advice on how to keep all of our balls in the air, right MAMAS?

O-MAMA is proud to announce that we are on set today talking about “the playground of politics!” And, we are bringing our opinons on news and events from a moms’ perspective to The Balancing Act blog every month. Now MAMAs have another outlet in which our voices can be heard. Tune in!

Change begins at home.™

THE STATE OF OUR UNION: Opinionated MAMA's Perspective on "Keeping It Together"

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When the honeymoon is over and the day-to-day grind of real life begins, it takes a lot of hard work to create a healthy, happy…more perfect…union. Whether we are talking about the state of our country or the state of our own marriage and family, the message is the same. We need to take time to evaluate what is working, what isn’t and figure out how to adjust accordingly. If we are in a dysfunctional relationship, it is hard to deal with any problems, big or small. Never mind an economic crisis, healthcare crisis, education crisis, natural disasters, terrorist threats and wars. It is too much. If we go into any relationship expecting it to fail, then it will fail. If we go into it committed to making it work, regardless of the circumstances or the magnitude of the problems, then we have a chance.

There has been a lot of stress on our union in the past few years. We certainly don’t need to add to the drama by “kitchen sinking” all the time. We’ve made mistakes. We need to fix them and move on.  We are a nation that is confused and scared, wondering how we racked up so many bills and let ourselves go over the years.  The things we care about seem to be upside down – from our country’s infrastructure falling apart to our own homes being under water, from the value of a dollar to our family values, from our blind faith in religious leaders to revered football coaches. We kind of feel like crap about it.

All the political bickering is not helping.  It’s like fighting in front of the kids – it stresses everybody out! We want to know that we will be o.k., that as dysfunctional as it seems sometimes, we are still committed to each other and will do whatever it takes to keep our American family strong. We want accountability and consequences for past mistakes, otherwise, how will we know you get it?  How will we know that you understand how much it hurt us?  How will we know that things can really get better?  We can pretend.  We have to be honest with each other.  And, yes, we should let each other up for the little things, but it’s so hard when we are not constructive and keep tearing each other apart.  So, for the sake of the kids, we need to get our priorities straight and remember what’s really important…for better or worse, we’re in this together.

Communication is not just about “talking,” it’s about connecting.  We can communicate with a look, a touch, a gesture, if we are truly connected. If we respect each other and trust each other, then communication is easier. Respect and trust are the foundation.  If we earn each other’s respect – if we feel it, really feel it – then trust comes and the inverse is true, too.  If we trust that our partner has our family’s best interests in mind at all times, we will respect him for it.  We might not always agree, but those shared values will get us through the toughest times.  Because, let’s face it, there will be a lot of tough times…and they can bring us closer or they will tear us apart.

Today, as we reflect on the state of our country, we will determine if the solutions presented meet our needs. Do we have the same dreams for our union? Do we have the patience to make things work for the long term, or not? Do we believe that things can really change? Will our children have a better future?

The President’s speech must translate to a happy home for our family…our American family. Because if our home is broken, figuratively or literally, then we won’t be able to focus on much else until we pick up the pieces. The bottom line is that we wake up every day and we have a choice to work on it or not. Like Abraham Lincoln once said, “A house divided against itself cannot stand.” Good advice for us as moms and for us as a nation.

Change begins at home.

–  Michelle & Deb

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REALITY BITES: Resolutions That “Don’t Bite Off More Than MAMAs Can Chew"

We’re sick of pretending like we’re going to join a gym, lose the same 10 lbs. as we’ve pledged before and finally fit into our skinny jeans.  Really?  Who cares?  Not us, or we’d do it.  So, how about just resolving to do what we can do? Let’s embrace the Spanks and stop dumping so many unrealistic expectations on ourselves all at once – to stop smoking, stop swearing, stop eating crap, oh my.  To find yourself, to find the love of your life, to win the lottery…and on and on? Paaaaleeeeease. Stop. Take a deep breath and realize that January 1st is just one day – so, we don’t have to “bite off more than we can chew.”  Instead, just try to nibble away at some things all year long.

1. stop setting double digit weight loss goals – keep expectations low and consider any missing ounces an accomplishment

2. say “no” a lot more – not just to your kids and their whining, but to everyone who asks you to do stuff you really don’t want to do or have time to do

3. don’t wear sweats every day – change it up and make sure you still fit into your fat jeans

4. throw out the granny panties in your drawer – good grief, we all have them and some of us have ones with holes…comfy, shmumfy, they’re heinous so dump ’em

5. use paper plates when you have “friends” over – you’ll be happy you don’t have to do dishes and they’ll be happy they don’t have to help you

6. take a holiday from waxing (or doing anything painful to yourself in the name of beauty) – that’s right, instead of dreaming of a spa day, give yourself a real break and go au naturel for awhile in 2011

7. don’t listen to radio Disney when your kids aren’t in the car – it’s not cool, it’s kind of embarrassing that we know the words to Justin Bieber, so change the channel, pump up the volume and rock out to your faves because you ROCK MAMA

8. stop driving around looking for the closest parking spot – instead, park in the farthest spot and consider it your “exercise”

9. consider “warming up dinner” as the same as cooking dinner – no one is preparing julienned vegetables when you’ve got three kids to get to and fro, homework and scrub downs every night, so consider heating up left-overs or buying prepared foods the new “home-cooked” meal – it counts

10. don’t pretend to have a headache – take 2 aspirin, close your eyes and remember what you actually like about the person in bed next to you

Sometimes we’ve got to cut ourselves some slack, ladies.  We do it all – sometimes with grace and sometimes like a klutz, but we still get it done.  Start the year off resolved to take things day by day – know that you’re doing the best you can and you’re going to try some stuff and you’re going to blow off some stuff.  But at the end of the day, when you tuck your kids in safe and sound, know you did a good job that day.  And, let that be enough.  We hope that 2012 brings you a lot of good days, MAMAS!  Happy New Year.

O-MAMA's Tips For Faking The "Perfect" Family" Holiday

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Faking the perfect family takes years of practice, so MAMAs don’t put too much pressure on yourselves for perfecting it immediately.  With one major holiday down, here are some tips that can give us a head start on the next one!

1. The perfect family photo/holiday card

Really? Why do we pick out matching clothes for our kids and expect that a) they are going to like it, b) it will make them smile bigger and behave better, c) it looks even remotely like our kids every other day of the year

Solution:  Keep the kids in their dirty clothes and just have them make a funny face – say “jingle bells!” It’ll save a lot of time and aggravation, get the job done, stand out from all the other “perfect” cards and everyone can move on to the next perfect task.  Don’t worry, it’ll be perfectly THEM.

2. The perfectly decorated house

O.k., so this one gets tricky…it’ll probably require someone on the roof and his name is not Santa.  Not to mention, the perfectly decked halls and all the fa la la la la that follows a trip to Home Depot to fight over the tree – you know, “honey whichever one you want…no, not that one!” Times ten.  Bah humbug.  Stay calm  Get it done.  Tis the season.  (If you don’t do the tree/St. Nick deal, skip to #4)

Solution:  No way, we’re not advocating a faux tree – that is not perfect enough.  You need the smell of pine, the hassle of schlepping it in and out of the house and vaccuming of needles to check this box off the list.  But, we do think you should recruit elves…your elves.  Stick their crazy holiday art all over the fridge and on the tree.  The real tree, with the holes and lopsided Charlie Brown-esque thing goin’ on.  Hang some candy canes on it, put them in bowls and add to the wreath on the front door.  Super cheap. Fun, festive and practical – whenever you want a little snack, have at it MAMA.

3. The perfect holiday MOMent

Oh, the anxiety of it all.  If you’re dating, you’re “dreaming of a white Christmas” playing in the background with candles flickering, snow flurries falling and mistletoe hanging. If you’re a kid, it’s about sugar plum fairies, Santa’s bag of toys, jingle bells and hot cocoa (yep, throw in a candy cane). But, when you’re a parent, it is about your kid making it through the school pageant without doing anything completely embarrassing, not getting busted putting together the dollhouse at 3 a.m. and capturing the desired expression and squeal of joy from your perfectly imperfect kid when they see it.

Solution:  We can’t help ya with the pageant, just prepare for the worst and hope for the best.  But, for not being outed on Christmas Eve, put bells on their bedroom door.  It goes with #2 and helps with #3.

4.  The perfect hostess gift

The fruitcake is not the answer.  It looks weird.  It tastes weird. And you can’t even wrap it to make it look appealing.  The perfect hostess gift is all in the wrapping, because, let’s face it…it will probably end up being re-gifted anyway.

Solution:  Don’t spend a lot on the gift, make it about the wrapping. The presentation is key in the perfect hostess gift department. All it has to do is look impressive (because no one but the hostess will ever know what it is) and she won’t even know who it’s from.  Just smile and hand it over…no gift card necessary.  Oh pleeeeeaaase, sometimes you’ve gotta do what you’ve gotta do!

5. The perfect extended family dinner

Perfect is in the eye of the beholder, of course.  Fake perfect is all about perception.  A beautifully set table can hide a multitude of sins. After all, everyone has the crazy aunt who likes to bring homemade cheese ball hors d’ouevres, and an uncle who thinks its fun to trap someone under the mistletoe.  There will be the sister whose hubby is obnoxious after too much egg nog, and the tweener nephew who tells the the little ones that “Santa isn’t real.”  This is too much for us to mitigate when deciding who will sit next to deaf grandpa, while making the perfect scratch gravy at the same time.

Solution: If you’re the host, parse out the menu (we love us a little pot luck) because everybody has a recipe they think they’ve mastered. Let go a little and let the cheese ball roll!  Serve plenty of wine and turn up the Christmas music.   Make sure you sit next to the most fun family member at dinner.  It might even be the most dysfunctional person…but, what the heck…you owe yourself a jolly good time after all of your holiday preparations and jingled bells.

Remember MAMAs, the holidays are all about being together.  Raise a glass and thank your crazy family for their contribution to the day.  Lighten up! Embrace the the fact that most of us totally fake being “perfect” during the holidays.  Heck, most of us are faking it most of the time! So, treat the holidays like a normal day…just with better outfits, more food and a cleaner house. “Nobody’s perfect”…and sometimes it’s the imperfect MOMents in our lives that turn out to be the very best memories!

"I'll Be There": Opinionated MAMA's Perspective on the Life of MICHAEL JACKSON

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As we watch Michael Jackson’s family walk into the courthouse, we are again reminded that our hopes and dreams are often wrapped up in our children…all they will do and all they will achieve.  How proud we’ll be.  The problem is that we’ve gotten so wrapped up in the infinite “checklist” of what they are doing, or should be doing, that we don’t really know HOW they are doing today, let alone who they’ll be and what they’ll be doing tomorrow. “My kids are great.  Jack is getting all A’s, he is the captain of the football team, he is very popular, he’s working on a cure for cancer and…oh, did I tell you about Sophie, she’s really something…?”  Check.  Check.  Check.  The reality is that our kids are stressed out and we need to be there to help them figure out how to balance the pressures of childhood with realistic expectations.  Because when we tell them we’ll build our world of dreams around you, it freaks them out a little.

The King of Pop grew up in a fishbowl, for all of us to judge from the time he hit his first high “C.”  MJ and his siblings were children competing in an adult world…the expectations were unfair.  Subjected to total parental control and exploitation, Michael never really had a childhood.  I’ll be there to protect you, with an unselfish love that respects you did not happen for him.  He recognized that his childhood was taken from him and he endured a kind of stress that no child should have to bear. His parents let it happen.  Seemingly, Michael spent his entire adult life on a quest to recapture the innocence of his youth.  Our kids will not likely deal with that kind of pressure, but heavy expectations nonetheless.

In fact, it seems to be mounting with each generation.  The bar keeps changing.  A 4.0 GPA is not the gold standard anymore, there are AP classes and only a 4.3+ will do.  Today, some parents have traded dinner table conversation about the day’s events to food on the go dashing between tutors, sports and everything else on the check list.  Our kids are over-scheduled and it is our fault.  Somehow we have convinced ourselves that more is better.  More stuff.  More programs.  More trophies.  Why does every kid need a participation trophy, by the way?  For them?  No.  They understand the difference between the courtesy trophy and the ones they win.  The trophies are for us.  To validate all the things on the check list.  There isn’t time for playing outside after school with the neighborhood kids.  Hardly anything is unscheduled.  Nothing is left up to the child…to chance, to fate, to whim, to experimentation, to choice.  All is a means to and end.  Check.  Togetherness, well that’s all I’m after.

We need to think about letting our kids be kids if we are to raise confident, well-rounded, whole human beings.  Let them get dirty.  Let them make a fort out of the living room pillows.  Let them climb the tree.  Let them have time to just be.  You and I must make a pact, to bring salvation back. Otherwise, we might raise the next King of Pop on the outside, but on the inside, he’ll likely be a lonely, one-dimensional person, who has not been allowed to stop and smell the roses once in a while.  Someone who doesn’t know how cope without being the center of attention…without an award, constant praise and someone else’s definition of “success.”  Someone who is unable to adapt to life in the real world…constantly trying to achieve the elusive trophy.  Great IQ, no EQ.  All the checks in place, but still something will be missing.  Our kids need to try, err, get roughed up, take a look around, know themselves. More from experimenting, than watching.  Our job is to tell them, it’s o.k. give it a try…and I’ll have faith in all you do, but our kids cannot do everything to perfection and we shouldn’t expect them to.  Sometimes, they will learn more from their failures than they will from their successes. We need to accept that they are going to fall down sometimes.  And, we need to take a deep breath and let it happen, so they learn how to “pick themselves up, dust themselves off, and start all over again.” Otherwise, it’s like getting the courtesy trophy.

Our job is to teach them resilience and perseverance, but they need to do the hard work.  If they know that it is o.k. to fail sometimes, that it is part of the learning process, that they just have to put themselves out there sometimes…then maybe they will work harder for themselves, not for us.  The pressure might be less intense.  Let me fill your heart with joy and laughter is our role…cheering them on…easing the pressure a bit by letting them know that no matter what happens I’ll be there.  Maybe then, we’ll raise flexible, multi-dimensional, well-adjusted people who will be good friends, neighbors and citizens that can look at the Man In The Mirror and like who they see.  Sadly though, Michael Jackson’s mom and dad bought into the successful, one-dimensional caricature parenting philosophy and his life turned out a little spooky…more like the Thriller video than the lyrics of I’ll Be There.

Change begins at home…and it starts with YOU!

-Michelle & Debbie

"The Voice of Reason": Opinionated MAMA's Perspective on the SOCIAL & POLITICAL ISSUES of Our Times

Originally posted 9/12/09, given the political climate, we thought our very first opinion piece was relevant this week:

“Listen to your mother!” We’ve all heard it a million times….it’s an effective reminder that makes kids sit up a little straighter and pay attention. Yep, it’s true, kids need constant reminders on how to behave, but unfortunately, the grown ups in our country need to be reminded, too. You know, ”mind your manners,” “clean up your own mess,” “don’t be a poor sport” and on and on. So, who better to do it than America’s moms?

We are the example our children see and hear every day, so America’s moms know that our “actions speak louder than words.” But, it is time that we start holding grown-ups accountable for their behavior, too. Our kids are watching and listening, so “do as I say, not as I do” doesn’t cut it anymore. If congressmen can’t “mind their manners” while the President is speaking, how do we expect a ten year old to be respectful when his teacher is talking? If a professional athlete can’t “be a good sport” when they lose, how do we encourage a disappointed t-ball player? If rock stars don’t grasp that there are times when “the world doesn’t actually revolve around them,” how do we convince our teenagers of it? If we expect better kids, we all must be better examples.

America’s kids are our future. They are the next generation of “risk-takers, doers and makers of things.” They are the next bankers and baseball players, teachers and technicians, police officers and policy makers, artists and astronauts, scientists and social workers…and they will be the role models for the generation after them…the next Presidents, Wall Street whiz kids, Nobel Peace Prize winners, curers of cancer, soldiers, teachers, parents…our kids are going to define the future of our nation and moms have the incredible job of literally shaping what kind of people, and citizens, they grow up to be.

We were challenged to usher in “a new era of [parental] responsibility” in President Obama’s inaugural address. At first, we thought it was about turning off the TV and making sure the kids were doing their homework. And, frankly, Deb and I thought we were doing a pretty good job, but then we realized we were missing the big picture. We aren’t just raising kids, we are raising the citizens who will define the future of our nation – the country we all love – regardless of political affiliation, sexual orientation, race, religion or region. We are the country that does great things. The country that makes us proud. We can all rally around our kids and our country, right? This fundamental belief is how the idea for O-MAMA.com was born.

America’s moms have the most important job (no offense Mr. President) and we need to come together to get to the heart of the issues that matter most to raising happy, healthy, productive, well-adjusted citizens. Sure, we need to know how and why we see things differently, but that’s not where the conversation should begin and end. The solutions are rooted in our country’s collective values…in the lessons we teach our kids every day. The conversations need to start at the kitchen table with the people we love and come full circle…while using “indoor voices” and “nice manners,” of course!

Each of us has the power to affect change. “Opinionated MAMAs” influence our kids, families, communities and, ultimately, the direction of our country. Our opinions are supposed to be influencing our political climate, not the political climate influencing us. Our kids and our country need us – we need some basic parenting principals, not political agendas, to change the bad behavior we see in the news & events of the day. So MAMAS, we need to stay engaged and share our opinions on the issues that matter most.

If we keep in mind the simple lessons we’ve all been taught by our mothers, and the parenting lessons we are teaching our own kids, then maybe the complex social and political issues that our country is facing will become a little less complicated. Maybe, if we stop second guessing every intention and start really believing the things we already know to be true–like “choose your battles wisely,” “don’t judge a book by it’s cover,” “practice what you preach,” “live and let live”, “leave it better than you found it,” etc.–then, we can finally start tackling some of the issues we can no longer avoid and teach our kids the life lessons we can no longer ignore. Maybe, just maybe, these issues are not as polarizing as we think they are? Maybe, just maybe, if we turn to each other, and tap into the collective wisdom of America’s moms, we can actually highlight right from wrong, instead of focusing so much on left and right. Maybe, just maybe, America’s moms already know the answers to our country’s problems?!

With a little humor and a lot of common sense, America’s moms can be a constructive voice in our country’s most important conversations. If our country starts listening to it’s MAMA’s, maybe we won’t get into so much trouble?! Can we do it? You betcha! Change begins at home…and it starts with YOU!

THE STATE OF OUR UNION: Opinionated MAMA's Perspective on "Keeping It Together"

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When the honeymoon is over and the day-to-day grind of real life begins, it takes a lot of hard work to create a healthy, happy…more perfect…union. Whether we are talking about the state of our country or the state of our own marriage and family, the message is the same. We need to take time to evaluate what is working, what isn’t and figure out how to adjust accordingly. If we are in a dysfunctional relationship it is hard to deal with any problems, big or small. Never mind an economic crisis, healthcare crisis, education crisis, natural disasters, terrorist threats and 2 wars. It is too much. If we go into any relationship expecting it to fail, then it will fail. If we go into it committed to making it work, regardless of the circumstances or the magnitude of the problems, then we have a chance.

There has been a lot of stress on our union in the past couple years.  We certainly don’t need to add to the drama by bickering over everything – big or small – “kitchen sinking” all the time. We’re not bored, so there is no need to stir it up just for the fun of it.  We are a nation that is confused and scared, wondering how we racked up so many bills and let ourself go.  The things we care about seem to be upside down – our homes, our values, you name it.  We look like crap and we feel like crap and we’re taking it out on everyone.  We’re not happy and we’re fighting in front of the kids!  They need to know that we are o.k., that we are committed to each other and we do still love each other, and our American family, so let’s pull it together for the sake of the kids. Remember, it is not just about us…it’s about all of us.

Our country needs to fix the dynamic of our government.  It does not seem to be working for us right now.  There is a lot of posturing and self-serving behavior.  In any healthy relationship, there will be disagreements, but, we need to know that we are all in it to win it.  We can’t be hurling insults, lies and ultimatums. We need to have the same goals and show each other some respect to solve our problems. One person alone cannot make a relationship work.  It takes two. Balance. Give and take.

As moms, we usually take the lead in making sure that everyone checks in with each other from time to time to assess the state of things.  Did you have a good day? Do you want to go out for dinner or stay in? However, if our partner is not receptive, it doesn’t work.  See the parallels?  As our country begins a new political year, we take time to assess as a nation.  What is the state of our union? How is our family really doing?  Are we moving in the right direction?  Are we better off today than we were last January?  Are we happier?  Are we healthier?  Do we feel safer and more secure?  Are we more or less stressed out?  Is it working or not?  It may not be awesome, but, if we want it to be better and we really try to fix it, that’s a start.  If we play head games and draw lines in the sand, we will get nowhere. Attitude is everything. We must be open to actually solving the problems, otherwise, it becomes too hard…we get frustrated, shut down and we stop communicating.

Communication is not just about “talking,” it’s about connecting.  We can communicate with a look, a touch, a gesture, if we are truly connected. If we respect each other and trust each other, then communication is easier. And, as one Opinionated MAMA pointed out, respect and trust are the foundation.  If you have earned eachother’s respect – if you feel it, really feel it – then trust comes and the inverse is true, too.  If you trust that your partner has your family’s best interests in mind at all times, you will respect him for it. Those shared values will get you through the toughest times.  Because, let’s face it, there will be a lot of tough times…and they can bring us closer and stronger, or they will tear us apart.

Today, as we reflect on the solutions for our country, like any relationship, we will determine if it meets our needs.  Can we communicate in an open, honest way?  Do we have the same dreams for our union? Does he get me? Does he challenge me?  Does he listen to me?  Can I trust him?  Am I appreciated?  Do I have the patience to make things work for the long term, or not?  Do we believe that things can really change?  When? How?  Will our children have a better future?

The bottom line is that the President’s speech must translate to a happy home for our family…our American family.  A place where we feel respected, valued, loved and appreciated…where we are comfortable, happy, healthy, safe and secure.  Because if our house is broken (or we no longer have a roof over our head) then we won’t be able to focus on much else. We wake up every day and we have a choice…to work at it, or not. Like Abraham Lincoln once said, “A house divided against itself cannot stand.” Good advice for us as moms and for us as a nation.  Because in both regards, if we are committed to making our union work, for better or for worse, then we will be okay.

“Let’s deal”

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Happy Friday MAMAS!

MAMAs know that we must try our best to make a bad hand into a good one, but, utlimately we have to play the hand we’re dealt…in cards, in politics and in life.

This week, it’s been all about the debt ceiling. There won’t be enough money in the kiddy to pay up on bets we’ve already made (the wars, tax cuts, prescription drug plans, bailouts, stimulus), unless Congress raises the debt ceiling. Super – we are gambling with the full faith and credit of the United States of America and the unknown consequences of default. If we can’t “fish a wish” on this one, then what?  It doesn’t matter which political party “wins” the game, because we – the people – lose when our government doesn’t work.

We expect Congress to stop the partisan poker match and come up with a wild card solution for the good of the country. Someone’s gotta blink. Folding is not an option.

MAMAs, play a little go fish, gin, hit me or shoot the moon with the KID-Os this weekend…we bet they’ll know how to cut the deck fairly and squarely!

Change begins at home.

– Michelle & Deb